The Softer Side of Life After Divorce as a mom in business

After divorce, I discovered my tender side. I was angry and hard-edged four years ago. That was not who I wanted to be, so I had to lose it. It protected me, but I don’t want to live there.

I can now control my fury. I saw the warning signs before wrath. You can travel too far and it takes time to return. Normal emotions include anger. We must learn to channel it properly. Fuel your desires with rage. You can act appropriately when you know the end aim.

I know how to free strife-lovers. I learned via divorce that you can’t fix anyone. You must cure yourself, and others must too. Allow folks to leave when the conflict becomes too severe. It promotes peace and excellent relationships.

Dissolution is war, and the words flung your way might linger. Words and acts can pierce your heart and intellect. Painful wounds can continue to damage if not healed. It harms you and others. I freed myself by telling the truth to those lies.

I’ll be seen and heard easily. Cannot battle for space. I shall function in a self-created zone. Don’t push situations to fit. Be comfortable in your own path and whatever you need will appear. I wish I had realized that sooner.

It takes time to balance. You no longer want to be cold, but you also don’t want to be weak. Therefore, you must be able to evaluate each situation to respond effectively. You must know yourself and your goals. Finally, I wanted to put down my weapons and be at peace. The softer side of life is more fun. I look forward to a calm life, but she can protect me if needed. Since I live there, it will soften quickly.

Regina H.